New relationships are full of so much excitement and nerves because everything is just that: new. Each day together is full of a day of firsts. From your first kiss to your first fight, you are constantly learning to become more and more comfortable together. Suddenly, things are going really well and it becomes pretty serious. A few months down the road you get the text, “My parents want to meet you.” Holy crap. All of a sudden shit gets real. What do you do?
Well, for starters you text him back. This is not the time to bail because in all honesty, he’s probably as nervous as you. Then you can go through these simple steps to make sure that you are fully prepared and confident to go into this dinner. Now here’s a few tips on what to do after that.
Set A Date At Least 3 Days Away
This will give you some time to really process that you are meeting his parents, talk to your girlfriends about it, freak out and then plan an outfit. If you wait too long, you’ll drive yourself crazy with nerves. Find a balance between the two that will leave you with enough time to prepare, but not too much time to over think the decision.
Encourage A Neutral Setting
If it’s up to you, choose somewhere that is neutral. You want to make sure that you are comfortable as well as the parents. That may mean a meal at their house, your house, or a restaurant close by. There isn’t a right or wrong answer here, but don’t push yourself out of your comfort zone on the first meal.
This is no time to try that new sheer top or heels. Dress comfortable (unless otherwise noted). Just relax, this isn’t a beauty contest. They will love you because their son cares about you enough to bring you home to them.
Remember That They Might Be Nervous Too
Keep in mind that you may be the first girl he’s brought home. This can be very intimidating to parents, most often moms. It may take them a bit to warm up to you, or maybe they will jump right on board.
You never know what you’re going to get when you meet his parents. Don’t go in with expectations and keep your mind open. Give it time, just like you did the relationship. There’s not right or wrong way to go about this, just be sure to stay true to yourself no matter what.
Past meeting his parents and further into the relationship? Read my post about When to Move in With Your Significant Other!