How to be Social When You and Your Partner are Introverts
If you call me on a Saturday night, I’m probably in bed playing Mario kart with Zach. Call us old and lame, but when you and your partner are introverts, it’s crazy hard to make yourselves be social. I can’t tell you how many double dates we have rescheduled because we simply just wanted to hang out at home. But we can’t stay like this forever, and neither can you and your partner. It’s so easy to just be with each other all the time, but that’s not a healthy relationship.
So how do you push yourselves to be more social? It’s not easy, nor always fun, but in the end it will be worth it.
Grab Drinks Downtown
Here’s one way to at least get out of the house. Maybe you don’t have any couple friends yet to go out with, but getting out the two of you is better than nothing. There have been times we have been sitting at a brewery and picked up conversation with the couple next to us. Granted, we never saw them again, but for the time we were out it was super nice. And who knows, you may strike the right couple next to you and make some great friends.
Reach Out to Old Friends in Relationships
A few months ago Zach reached out to a friend from his early years in undergrad that was now at school near us and in a relationship. It was a great way for us to meet up with a couple to double date that one of us had some sort of connection with. Starting with a brand new couple may be intimidating, and at least this way you know they are somewhat sane.
Do More with Groups
Going out to dinner doesn’t always have to be on a double date. Grab a group of friends (maybe other couples, maybe not) and go get a pizza. Just being out with a group that you feel comfortable in is a good way to spend a Friday night. Groups are great for couples because it isn’t just the two of you with your single friend who hates to be around you as a couple, and sometimes I couldn’t blame them. This gives everyone someone to talk to without feeling singled out for any reason.
Host an Event
Hosting an event together is a great way to be social and in almost a fully controlled environment. Have a game night or a small party at your place. The two of you have full control on who you invite. Really feeling open and social? Let your friends bring their own partner if they don’t already have one. Someone to enjoy the night with, maybe romantic or maybe not. This will help increase everyone’s friend circle and incorporate new people and maybe spark new love.
Making friends in a relationship can be so difficult, especially when you have a partner that you feel comfortable with but don’t let this stop you. Try to push yourselves to be social at least once a month for starters. I can promise you’ll enjoy it and be glad to throw something different in to the mix every few weekends.